Not all women are going to be stay-at-home moms so for goodness sake, let’s please stop telling each other that’s what they need to be. A working mom is a good mom too!
As mothers, moreover, women, let’s do something crazy and support each other instead!
I recently overheard a woman telling another woman that if she tried harder she could be a stay at home mom. If they worked hard enough, if they saved enough money, if they were just a little bit better, she and her family could survive off a single income and she could be a stay-at-home mom. And it made me so hopping mad I wanted to tell that other woman off.
Can’t we just support each other and stop making life decisions for each other? It is not your business or your place to make these unfounded choices for other families. Decisions on their financial matters, decisions on how to raise their kids, decisions on what’s best for their lives.
Not all women are going to be stay-at-home moms.
Some women are the financial breadwinners of their families.
Some women have jobs they love and are exceptional at doing.
Some women have jobs with excellent health insurance and benefits their families rely upon to stay healthy.
Some families need the income.
Some women simply are not called to be stay-at-home moms.
You can’t presume to know the innermost thoughts of a woman or her family dynamics. You don’t need to make those decisions for anyone but yourself. And more importantly, it’s not your job to do so.
Quit judging.
Quit forcing your presumption that all women should be stay-at-home moms on other women.
Motherhood is hard enough without us telling each other that a woman’s place is in the home.
So, momma, you’re headed back to the workplace after maternity leave because you need to? Good for you and all the high fives.
Working moms, we see you!