Quit Telling Other Women to be a Stay-at-Home Mom

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working momNot all women are going to be stay-at-home moms so for goodness sake, let’s please stop telling each other that’s what they need to be. A working mom is a good mom too!

As mothers, moreover, women, let’s do something crazy and support each other instead!  

I recently overheard a woman telling another woman that if she tried harder she could be a stay at home mom. If they worked hard enough, if they saved enough money, if they were just a little bit better, she and her family could survive off a single income and she could be a stay-at-home mom. And it made me so hopping mad I wanted to tell that other woman off.

Can’t we just support each other and stop making life decisions for each other? It is not your business or your place to make these unfounded choices for other families. Decisions on their financial matters, decisions on how to raise their kids, decisions on what’s best for their lives.

Not all women are going to be stay-at-home moms.

Some women are the financial breadwinners of their families.

Some women have jobs they love and are exceptional at doing. 

Some women have jobs with excellent health insurance and benefits their families rely upon to stay healthy. 

Some families need the income. 

Some women simply are not called to be stay-at-home moms.

You can’t presume to know the innermost thoughts of a woman or her family dynamics. You don’t need to make those decisions for anyone but yourself. And more importantly, it’s not your job to do so.

Quit judging.

Quit forcing your presumption that all women should be stay-at-home moms on other women.

Motherhood is hard enough without us telling each other that a woman’s place is in the home. 

So, momma, you’re headed back to the workplace after maternity leave because you need to? Good for you and all the high fives.  

Working moms, we see you!

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Kara Knaack
Kara originally hails from northwest Iowa where she met her husband, Lance, through a 4-H fashion show. After a decade of living in central Iowa, Kara is still figuring out which way is north. Wearing the hat of “wife, mommy, employee, chef, ribbon tie-er and family calendar organizer,” Kara knows a bit about juggling life and work. Kara became a boy-mom in June of 2011 to Lucan and a girl-mom to Gracelyn in December of 2014. Most days you can find her mixing up metaphors and oversharing life’s moments via social media. Kara enjoys yoga, reading, gardening, cooking, sewing in straight lines and singing along to musicals. A spender by nature, but thrifty by necessity, Kara is always in hunt of a bargain. She’s an active member of Northpoint Church and a resident of Grimes. Her vision for life includes “doing the best we can with what God gives us.”

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