As parents, you hate to think of your kids experiencing trauma, but unfortunately, it is part of life. Talking to kids about trauma isn’t easy, but it’s important to have these conversations with our kids so we can help them process it.
Trauma can present in a variety of ways, whether it’s the death of a grandparent, natural disaster, war, or school violence. Even if you think your kids have a stress-free life, they have probably encountered some kind of trauma in it.
Therapist Shay Sholtes, LMHC, CADC, defines different types of trauma and shares how to talk to kids about these hard topics. Shay is a local mom to 3 littles and has a private practice in West Des Moines.
Tips for Talking to Kids About Trauma
What are common types of trauma that kids may experience?
There are two main types of trauma, acute and complex. Acute trauma is a single event, like a natural disaster or death in the family. Complex trauma is something that occurs over time, like physical abuse or domestic violence.
Why is it important to have conversations with your kids when they have experienced trauma?
Sometimes conversations about trauma happen naturally. Your kid may ask a question about something they overheard on the news or you might overhear them talking about an event and ask them about it.
Some kids may not talk about things they hear and don’t understand. But that doesn’t mean they aren’t aware of it. If your kids haven’t said anything it’s a good idea to bring up the topic and ask if they have any questions about it. Shay recommends parents stick to the facts and keep the conversation age-appropriate.
What are signs to look for that you should seek professional help for your child dealing with trauma?
Parents know their kids best. If you notice your child is acting differently or behavior is changing, this is a sign you might want to talk to your child about trauma or seek professional help.
Watch more of my conversation with Shay Scholtes about “Talking to Kids About Trauma.”
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