The mental burden for moms is heavy. We worry about our kids, we worry we aren’t doing enough as moms, we worry about our relationships. Throw in a pandemic, school from home, economic instability, divisive politics, and racial unrest and it can be crippling.
Des Moines Mom wants to create a safe space for ongoing conversations about mental health. In the past couple of years, it is a topic that people are more comfortable talking about, but there is still room for growth.
Mental Health Mondays
In this monthly series, we’re going to be talking about mental health for ourselves, for our kids, our spouses, and our families. We could talk about the importance of mental health for days. Some topics we want to dig into are anxiety and depression, bullying, postpartum depression, and therapy in general.
We are excited to kick off this series with a conversation with therapist Shay Sholtes, LMHC, CADC. Shay is a local mom to 3 littles and has a private practice in West Des Moines.
Mental Health and Motherhood
Why is it important for moms to pay attention to their mental health?
It is hard to ask for help. As moms, we are the ones who are supposed to take care of others and have it all together. But if we aren’t healthy (both mentally and physically) we can’t do that well. There is no shame in admitting you are struggling with anxiety or feeling overwhelmed. Talking to a therapist is one way to help manage your stress and be the best mom and woman possible.
What should I expect if I go to a therapist?
It’s easy to minimize your struggles and tell yourself your problems aren’t that big to warrant seeing a therapist. Counseling is a chance to talk to an unbiased, third party. Someone who doesn’t know you and can speak objectively to what you’re going through. You can process your thoughts and feelings with them and get valuable feedback.
You may have a couple sessions and be done, or you may decide to meet with a therapist long term. Every situation is unique.
It is important to find a therapist you are comfortable with. Don’t be afraid to look for someone else if the first person you see isn’t a good fit.
How do I find a therapist?
A good place to start is to ask close friends for a recommendation. If you have insurance, check to see what providers and services they cover. Many plans only require you to pay a co-pay. Therapy or counseling doesn’t have to cost hundreds of dollars!
Emotional and mental health is just as important as physical health. Helping others reach their full potential in their lives and holding space for them is an absolute privilege. Learn more at Shay Scholtes, LLC.