Friendship and Motherhood


Friendship.Mommy Friends

We grow up being warned that friends will come and go—that life will happen, places and circumstances will change, and the people with whom we will surround ourselves won’t always stay the same.

And then we grow up, and life happens… and we find out that it’s true. Not always by choice but most certainly by necessity, the basic nature of our friendships—and, likely, even the faces of our friendships—changes.

We’ve become mothers. And all the circumstances that have led up to this place, and all the circumstances that go hand-in-hand with arriving here, have called for a necessary change.

Mom's Night Out FriendsBecause as much as we love and value our friends… as much as we want to spend hours talking to them on the phone each week or hanging out with them at the local coffee shop, our circumstances—those blessed, “motherhood” circumstances—often dictate otherwise.

For the simple fact that A Day in the Life of Mom is happening inside our homes… all the time… our presence in our friends’ lives just doesn’t look the same as it did pre-parenthood. Our interactions become less frequent, more interrupted, and of slightly different form; yet they remain meaningful, heartfelt, and important.

And the great thing is that our fellow mommy friends understand that… because they are in the same boat. I saw a photo in my Facebook feed this week that read,

It’s been said that everlasting friends go long periods of time without speaking and never question their friendship. These friends pick up phones like they just spoke yesterday, regardless of how long it has been or how far away they live, and they don’t hold grudges. They understand that life is busy and you will always love them.

I am THANKFUL today for my “everlasting friends.” The grace, understanding, love, and trust between us has been a lifeline for our friendship—and for me.

It’s true, friends will come and go; but the staying power of everlasting friendship — even through the busyness of motherhood — is of value beyond words.

Let’s give a shout out today to our everlasting friends. These special people need to know how much they mean to us! I’ll start:

To my friends from whom distance and circumstances have separated me, whether in big ways or in small: I love you dearly. Though we may not be near in a physical way, we are near in my heart. I want you to know today that no amount of time or miles will distance me from you. I am your everlasting friend, and I am grateful that you are mine.


  1. Thanks for this post. This hits home for me. In April we went from one child to two, and it’s been a tough transition with a few of my friendships. Some just don’t understand that getting a babysitter for an infant and a 3 year old isn’t easy. Some have fully embraced that and we do things with the kiddos in tow. I definitely appreciate those friends who have stuck with me even if I see them rarely.


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