Boymom and the Toilet


It’s Boymom Week on the blog, and beginning today through the end of next week, our super-heroic moms of all boys are talking all things BOY! Jennifer kicks things off for us with a boymom topic that just has to be addressed….

Boymom Series

As a mother of two boys, being a boymom is one of my biggest identities. Much of my life is consumed by the tasks that revolve around raising my boys. These tasks are highly different than those of mothers with only girls – and even slightly different from moms of mixed genders. I really enjoy my role as boymom, embracing the cars, dirt, Legos, and lack of hair accessories. I do think God knew what He was doing when He gave me boys. On the flip side, there are a few aspects of being a boymom that either absolutely scare me or just plain gross me out. Namely, bathroom habits.

Now, a bit of backstory about me: I grew up the oldest of three sisters. No brothers. Even our dog was a girl. My poor dad. So, from this seemingly gender biased beginning, I feel lucky that I did not come out a little prissy princess girly girl. Don’t get me wrong, I grew up having a pretty good handle (pictures will surely prove me wrong) on all things hair and nails and drama. But, quite frankly, I try to avoid most of that now that I am grown. That being said, I feel like both of my parents did a good job of incorporating non-girly things in our day-to-day lives, so I consider myself to have a fair amount of tomboy personality as well.

Boy: a noise with dirt on itSince my dad is what I would call a considerate gentleman, I evolved into an adult without knowledge of all the burping and farting and disgusting bathroom habits. They were foreign to me. No, they were extra-terrestrial when I ventured out into the “real world.” Wow, what a wake up call I had when I was first out of the house. Needless to say, one of my biggest goals, besides teaching my boys to be Christ-followers, is to be considerate gentlemen, like my dad.

After failing at teaching my boys to aim while peeing, clean up after themselves, and put the toilet seat down, I was lamenting my bathroom dilemma to a well-respected friend of mine. He told me that just because you can stand to pee doesn’t mean you should. He opened my eyes to the science behind how nasty the “spray” can be and how far the particles can reach. After he told me this, I remembered that a good friend once told me her husband sat down to pee, and I remember being slightly shocked because he, along with my friend who had just enlightened me, were what I consider very masculine men. I broached this topic with my dad and found out that he confirmed this spray information and also that he did not choose to stand when peeing. Uh… all these years, I never knew.

So, for the past month, I have implemented the “Sit Down to Pee” rule at my house. My eight-year-old was not too happy with me, put up quite the fight, and was downright embarrassed at first. The four-year-old seemed to care less. It was probably quite positive for him because it gave him an excuse to strip down to naked. (Why? He’s a boy.) I have got to say, though, wow! I am SO pleased with the results of this new rule. The seat is always down, there is no pee all over the floor, toilet, or the surrounding nine feet (Yep, true!), AND even my oldest has seen the light and admitted it is not too bad – and, in fact, so much cleaner.

I still may never see the humor in the belches and farts that seem to be plentiful around my house these days, but be sure that I will be teaching them to be respectful about it around ladies. I’d like to think their future wives will thank me for this later.

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Jennifer is a single mom of two boys. She does her best to get to places on time, despite being a chronically late person and the fact that neither she or her boys are morning people. She recently went back into the classroom after staying home for nine years to raise her kids, and she credits her sanity and success at this endeavor to the fact that she has incredibly supportive parents, family, and friends. She also has a network of single moms that truly “get it” and who encourage her on a daily basis. When she’s not hanging out with her kiddos, Jennifer enjoys writing at a coffee shop, trying new restaurants, or catching up with friends.


  1. Their future wives will thank them! Being a mom of 2 girls…I still can’t escape the laughter that surrounds belches and farts!

  2. Yep, my 4-year-old sits down still and I have no plans to change it! Also, I’m the oldest of 3 girls as well in my family so being a boy mom was also a little eye-opening to me, but now I can’t picture life any other way.

  3. I never would have believed I’d find pee on the areas I’ve had to clean it from. (Shower curtain, bathroom garbage can, walls, etc.) We instituted the sit down rule too and it has saved me from the brink of insanity! Great post 🙂

    • I think I may have to impliment the sit down to pee rule…its so frustrating! Seriously how do they get pee everywhere!!!

      • Angela, Look up “how far does uring splatter” on google. Or don’t, and trust me…yuck! I guarantee, if you implement this rule, you will not be sorry! 🙂

    • Marti, I know, right! I am glad this post was helpful to you, I hope that the rule works as good for you as it has been working for me!

  4. As a single mom of a now 16 year old, this often seems to be a great idea….until you take him to a public event. They will have no idea of how to go to the urinal and the ‘rules’ guys follow. My son was at a hockey game and dropped them to his ankles. He was embarrassed, and I felt horrible. As moms…we have to remember that they are guys, and will grow to be guys. fyi

    • I totally agree that we need to let our boys be boys! I’m sorry that you had an experience like that. My boys have been told that they need to apply the sitting rule at home, but out and about they can stand to their heart’s desire! 🙂 Thank you for your comment, fellow single momma!


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